How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself in 3 Simple Steps (So You Can Move Forward with Confidence)
“I know what I’m doing………well, maybe not.” Then you begin spiraling 🌀 and overthinking.
Have you ever found yourself thinking that? You make a decision—then five minutes later, you’re spiraling in your mind about whether it was the right one. Should I change it? What if it was wrong? What if I mess it up for everyone?
You’re not alone. Second-guessing has become a way of life for many of us. But it’s more than just a bad habit—it’s a confidence killer.
In today’s post, we’re tackling how to stop second-guessing your everyday decisions and start living with clarity, trust, and peace. These aren’t about the massive life choices like marriage or moving cross-country—this is about the daily ones. The ones that shape our belief in ourselves.
Because when we second-guess ourselves constantly, we chip away at our confidence—and over time, that makes it harder to follow God’s lead, walk in purpose, and even lead others.
You don’t need a psychology degree or perfect clarity to move forward. You just need a willing heart, a few shifts in perspective, and God’s Word to anchor you.
Let’s start with a story that might sound familiar…
That One Time I Didn’t Trust Myself…
There was a time I made a decision about an investment opportunity. After praying about it and doing my research, I felt peace. I felt confident.
But then… the second-guessing started.
I let doubt creep in, listened to other voices, and changed my mind. That shift, unfortunately, led to a serious financial situation that took months to unravel. The worst part? I knew deep down my original choice was right. I just didn’t trust it.
That experience taught me something powerful: the cost of constantly second-guessing ourselves isn’t just mental fatigue—it can lead us down paths God never intended for us.
Now, I’m not saying we should never reevaluate or seek wisdom. Changing your mind after gathering new info is wise. But flipping back and forth because of fear? That’s different.
Let’s dig into what’s actually happening—and how we can stop it.
How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself in 3 Simple Steps
Step 1: Recognize the Cost of Indecision
Constantly questioning ourselves may seem harmless, but over time, it erodes our confidence and delays our purpose.
“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” – Colossians 3:2

When our thoughts are stuck on fear, failure, or what others will think, it becomes nearly impossible to move forward with peace. God wants our focus on His truth, not our worries.
Small second-guesses can become habits:
- Should I speak up in that meeting?
- Should I send that email?
- Should I go to that event?
Eventually, we don’t trust ourselves to make any decision.
The fix? First, recognize when you’re spiraling and gently call it out. Remind yourself: “This is me second-guessing. I don’t need to stay here.”
Step 2: Stop Second-Guessing Yourself and Invite God Into the Process
The peace of God is not reserved for big decisions—it’s available every day.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation… present your requests to God. And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and minds.” – Philippians 4:6–7
When you’re facing a small choice—how to reply to someone, whether to post that message, or how to spend your time—pause and pray:
“Lord, You give wisdom. I’m listening. Help me trust You and trust what You’ve shown me.”
Prayer invites clarity. It reminds us we’re not alone, and it resets our focus from fear to faith.

Step 3: Make the Decision—and Own It
Once you’ve prayed and processed—decide.
This step is the turning point. Not because you’re always 100% sure… but because moving forward, even imperfectly, builds trust in yourself and in God.
Here’s the truth: you’re stronger and wiser than you give yourself credit for—especially when you’ve included God in the process.
Don’t be afraid to follow through. People around you—your spouse, your coworkers, your children—are looking for steady leadership, not perfection. When you waffle, it’s hard for them to follow your lead. When you commit, even with humility, it builds trust.
Next week in Part of of Stop Second-guessing Yourself:
In Part 2, we’ll cover how to build consistent confidence, overcome procrastination caused by overthinking, and follow through on your God-inspired goals. We’ll also explore how to create a personal decision-making routine grounded in Scripture and peace.
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In the meantime…
If second-guessing has left you stuck, check out this amazing Procrastination-Free Living micro course from my trusted partners at The Light Finders.
It’s simple, faith-based, and packed with helpful tools to get you moving again.

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Let’s Recap:
- Second-guessing yourself keeps you stuck.
- You already know more than you think.
- God offers clarity and peace—not confusion.
- Small daily decisions shape your confidence.
- You don’t have to live in fear of getting it wrong.
Next week, we’ll continue with strategies that build lasting confidence and decision-making momentum.
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