The Growth Code: Breaking Free & Moving Forward

Stagnation is a Slow Fade…  Time to get off your Duff and Start Living Your Dream for Women Ready to Take Charge of Their Life

Introducing… The Growth Code: Breaking Free & Moving Forward

Are you Growing or Just Going Through the Motions?

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Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in the same place—same struggles, same habits, same mindset? Maybe you’ve even told yourself, “This is just how life is.” But here’s the hard truth: If you’re not growing, you’re stagnating. And the problem? Most people don’t even realize it.

We get stuck wondering things like, “How did I end up here? This wasn’t the plan for my life.” Or, “Why isn’t my life going the way I wanted it to?” And maybe even worse—“What do I really want?”

These questions can feel heavy, but they’re also a wake-up call. They remind us that we were meant for more than just existing. If you’ve ever wrestled with these thoughts, don’t ignore them. Lean into them. They might be God’s way of nudging you toward growth, toward change, toward stepping into who He created you to be.

When you’re unsure what to do, it’s hard to move forward.

The good news is, you can easily bring order to the chaos by learning to live with intention and with a little help, you can change the trajectory of your life and turn your attention towards focused growth AND here’s what is really cool, you can even figure out exactly what it is that you DO want and steer your life in that direction. 

In this post, I’ll define The Growth Code and provide 3 essential ingredients that will give you a roadmap so you can get started.

Feeling stuck is one thing. Staying stuck? That’s a choice.

If you’re ready to break free from stagnation and start growing into the person God created you to be, here’s the first phase of your growth strategy:

Ingredient #1:  OWN IT!! 💣☄️

Your life is where it is right now—not because of your parents, the economy, your boss, or a lack of opportunities—but because of the choices you’ve made and the beliefs you’ve held onto. That might feel harsh, but it’s also freeing.

This is a crucial component because when you stop blaming outside circumstances, you take back your power to change.

Many people who are new to initial growth start out on the right track but then get stuck because of negative self-talk. 

Maybe you’ve told yourself:
❌ “The economy is bad, so I’ll never find a job I love.”
❌ “I’m just not smart enough to get ahead.”
❌ “No one ever notices me—I guess I’m just not meant to succeed.”

And then they wind up stuck.  These thoughts keep you locked in a cycle of “I can’t.” But that cycle breaks the moment you decide to own your life and take responsibility for your next step.😇

The key to breaking free from this – own it!  Recognize your part in all of this.  Stop and I do mean STOP blaming everything and everybody for where you are, and OWN IT!  If you honestly believe it is because of someone else, e.g. your husband, your parents, your kids, your boss, this is because you ALLOWED it.  It is always your response.  It really boils down to what you put up with.

To get started here, make THE DECISION to react with confidence and choice from this moment forward and mean it.  To help you, we come to the second ingredient.

Ingredient #2: Silence the Negative Self-Talk 🔇🙉

The way you speak to yourself matters more than you realize. Your words shape your thoughts, and your thoughts shape your reality. If you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re not good enough, not smart enough, or not capable, your mind will start to believe it—and before you know it, your actions will follow suit.

This is a vicious cycle that is actually habit-forming!  Doubt will hold you back from opportunities, fear will keep you from stepping out in faith, and negativity will drain your confidence before you even begin. 

Here’s the kicker!  But the opposite is also true!  Seriously!  Believe it!

If you’ve spent hours talking bad about yourself, it will take some help to get you turned around.  It may be that you know in your head this is true, but your heart hasn’t caught up quite yet.  There is likely a piece that’s missing in your thinking. 

But here’s the good news: You don’t have to stay trapped in negative thinking. You can reset your mindset in just five minutes a day.  How?

Well, I have a really useful guide that is free to help you out.  I’ve seen so many people go through this, and I wanted to help.  I believe in “quick wins” so I created this really awesome guide that will help you break free from this nasty habit in 5 minutes.🎁 Download my FREE 5-Minute Break Free Reset Guide and learn how to shift your thoughts and start building a healthier, stronger mindset:
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This simple yet powerful guide will help you recognize and shift negative thoughts before they take root. Keep it on your phone, bookmark it on your browser, or print it out and place it somewhere visible—so whenever you catch yourself slipping into self-doubt or negativity, you can reset your thoughts in just five minutes.

With quick, practical steps grounded in faith and intentionality, this guide will help you replace limiting beliefs with empowering truths. Take control of your mindset and start walking in the confidence God designed for you!

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Ingredient #3: Replace the Lies with Truth 🗣️🎺💪🇺🇸

It’s not enough to stop negative self-talk—you have to replace it with truth.

Here’s where you’ll really start to  see a difference.  Remember when I said the opposite of speaking negatively to yourself is true?  Well, when you choose to speak life over yourself—to remind yourself that you are capable, strong, and created with a purpose—you begin to rewire your mind for success. What you feed your mind determines what you believe, and what you believe determines how you live. (Have you ever heard the phrase “garbage in, garbage out?” It is true! So, guard your words, speak truth, and align your thoughts with the promises of God.

Here’s where transformation truly begins. When you intentionally fill your mind with God’s promises and affirm the truth about who you are in Christ, you shift from a cycle of doubt to a foundation of confidence. 

This is where you break free from the lies that have held you back and step into the life God has called you to live. The more you speak truth over yourself, the more your heart will believe it—and the more your actions will reflect it.

 Instead of saying…
❌ “I can’t do this.” → Say: “With God’s strength, I can learn and grow.”
❌ “I’ll never be good enough.” → Say: “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
❌ “Nothing ever changes.” → Say: “Every small step I take is moving me forward.”

And here’s the best part: When you shift your mindset, you don’t just change your life—you impact those around you.

✅ A positive, growth-oriented mind helps you become a better spouse, parent, friend, and leader.
✅ Your energy influences your home. A renewed mind strengthens your marriage and brings peace to your relationships.
✅ Every small action you take toward bettering yourself is an act of love—not just for you, but for those who matter most to you.

This doesn’t happen over night and it does take some practice, but once you get started using our 5-minute reset guide, you will immediately start to feel the improvement and see it as well in your relationships and your status.

Putting it All Together for Your Perfect Growth Code: 

There you have it! The 3 ingredients of your perfect Growth Code: Breaking Free & Moving Forward

It may sound like a lot, but like most things practice makes perfect. Just focus on your 5-minute Reset Guide to start.  This will help you push forward with an easy moderate step.  I gotta tell you, though.  Doing nothing is just NOT an option anymore.  You don’t want to stay stuck anymore than I want you to stay stuck.  I know you can do this!  I believe in you, and you gotta do it too!

Here it is- Your Big Takeaway (The Hammer Drop)

If you refuse to grow, you’re choosing to stay stuck. And staying stuck isn’t just delaying your success—it’s sabotaging it. Every day you let your mindset hold you back is a day lost that you’ll never get back. The life God has for you isn’t found in excuses, fear, or negativity—it’s found in forward motion. Own your life. Change your thoughts. Or stay where you are. The choice is yours.

What’s next? Download Break Free From Negative Thoughts

Get started now!  No excuses!  It is free!  Break Free from Negative Thoughts: Your 5-Minute Reset Guide  will help you stop speaking negatively to yourself, start your growth code to living intentionally and renew your mind daily.

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Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable--if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy--dwell on these things.  Philippians 4:8

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