5 Profoundly Positive & Simple Ways to Achieve the Confidence Effect in Your Life

To achieve the confidence effect starts with a change in how you see each and every situation, and a willingness deep in your soul to reach your life’s vision and dreams. It is a reversal and rewiring of the ruts your mind has developed over the years.  But don’t worry, you got this. Part 2 in the Achieve the Confidence Effect Series (In case you missed part one – The Confidence Effect: 20 Ways Believing in Yourself Changes Everything)

I could hear the laughter and loud buzz of a room full of people as I neared the conference room.  It sounded like a party instead of a business lunch.  Ugh.  My boss sent me here as part of my new job. 

I’m supposed to go to these networking events to bring in business but as I stepped into the room, everyone was already talking in groups.  They  looked so polished as they smiled and easily conversed.  

“I’m in the wrong place,” I thought.  “Why oh why did I take a sales job?  Oh, yeah, I wanted to have a better life, and I thought sales was the way to achieve this.”   I did not realize I would feel like this, so terrified at walking into a strange room with people I didn’t know.

And then I saw her.  A lady standing all alone.  She looked like I felt-out of place.  This gave me the courage to go over and speak with her.  “Hi, I’m K.Kay, it is so nice to meet you” as I held out my hand.  She smiled warmly and I saw the relief on her face as she shook my hand and told me her name was Julia.  Turns out Julia was pretty new as well,and of course I didn’t know it at the time, but we ended up with a mutually beneficial working relationship over the years.

Achieve the Confidence Effect through 5 Profoundly Positive & Simple Insights

#1 is The Dreaded Comfort Zone

Aye Yai Yai, this is a tough one.  There is a circle we draw around ourselves that becomes our favorite spots.  Not because we love it, but because it is the place that we are used to.  Our brains can be real jerks about this, too, but the first step is to recognize it.  Know it is there, and then make THE DECISION to step out of it.

It really is that simple.  Notice I didn’t say it was easy, I said it was simple.  You know you’re in the comfort zone.  You do.  Why is this so hard?  Well, “if it were easy, everyone would be doing it” as they say.  Or, “there’s no elevator to success” as others say.  

I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but it takes work, and lots of it, but the really cool part of all this, is that it is internal work, and there is help!  You just need a guide, and we’ve got you, so keep keeping.

#2 is 20 Seconds of Courage

Let me explain.  To go for and achieve the confidence effect all it takes is what a profound mentor that I follow, Darren Hardy, taught me.  Since our brains like to stay in that warm comfort zone, and whisper things like “don’t make that call” or “nobody wants to hear from you” or “that product isn’t important to that person, don’t even try to sell it to them” we listen.  I mean, it’s coming from inside your head, right?

But what if you spend the next 20 seconds saying “I can” while dialing that phone?  Press the buttons and press send.  It’s ringing, great, “hello…”  launch your spiel at this point.  I’m sure you are already prepared with your script.

The 20 seconds of action is way easier than trying to change everything all at once.  If you have a hard task that you are dreading, it will only get done with action.  And that action starts with 20 seconds of courage.

#3 Decide on Your Boundaries 

To achieve the confidence effect, it will take intentional work.  Now don’t stop reading because I said that.  If you do, then clearly you are not willing to do  the work, and you want your dreams to land in your lap.  I’ve learned the very hard way myself that this doesn’t work.

Doing the work isn’t necessarily what you think that means.  I had it all wrong.  I thought when people said I had to “do the work” that meant that I needed to keep after it day after day until my vision came true.  No.  That’s not what they mean.  What that means is that you are willing to do things that make you uncomfortable …and not just once, on a daily basis until you get comfortable with them to achieve your dream.

Dreams are not free, so decide on the “work” that you ARE WILLING to do to achieve the confidence effect and believe in yourself in such a way that you can live your I can story your way.

Are you willing to make 15 calls a day?  Post religiously on social media?  Make video shorts constantly?  Or if sales isn’t your gig, then are you willing to do the things your boss requires or your family demands to get the type of life you want?  Where will you draw the line?  What won’t work?  What’s the boundaries you will not cross?

Don’t forget what Matthew 6:33 says: Seek first God’s kingdom should remain the top priority over meeting other’s demands upon our time and resources.  As you set your sites on what you want, keep your eyes on Jesus and your Faith in God.

#4 Let Your Personality Shine to Achieve the Confidence Effect

This is so so so so SO important! You are “beautifully and wonderful made” Psalm 139:14.  Think about it.  There is no other person like you.  Your personality is unique and precious.  How can you use this knowledge to shine as you advance your career, develop a loving family and grow in whatever your life’s vision is?

Write down 3 of the very best qualities of your personality.  Do this right now.  Are you quick to smile?  Do you an intellectual brain or funny and charming?  Or are you the person who makes everyone else feel comfortable in the room?  What’s the best of the best of your personality?  Put them in the comments below.

#5 Use Your Greatest Achievement to Develop More Confidence

What would you consider your greatest achievement?  Did you get Pianist of the Year in High School?  Or, did you give birth to the most amazing son on earth?  Did you land the dream job that everyone wants?  Are you happy you didn’t get sick from nerves before you had to give a short speech in speech class?  

Whatever you consider your greatest achievement, use this as your stepping stone to achieve the confidence effect and live your life on your terms instead of letting it flow so casually you wake up one day and feel so stuck.

You Can Achieve the Confidence Effect-Decide Now

Recognize your comfort zone, acknowledge it is there, and think about ways to start stepping just outside, or go big and jump big, just step outside of it today!  Realize that it only takes 20 seconds.  That’s really not very long at all to start taking action.  You have what it takes.

Make sure your boundaries are set.  Some people will try to drag you outside of them.  In fact, many will and you’ll be faced with decisions that could change everything so get those solid boundaries set.

Let your personality shine.  You are truly and wonderfully and beautifully made in the likeness of God.  Let it shine.  “Hide it under a bushel, NO! I’m gonna let it shine”.  Be uniquely you!  Own it and enjoy it!

Finally use your Greatest achievements and how you felt when you achieved them as stepping stones to your future.  You got this.  I believe in you.

Next Steps to Achieve the Confidence Effect

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I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

    your works are wonderful,

    I know that full well. -Psalm 139:14