Stop Playing Small: God Didn’t Create You to Hide

10 Super Simple Ways to Gain Quick Confidence

Have you got your sights set on becoming the confident woman God created you to be? Walking in boldness and owning your identity in Christ doesn’t have to be complicated or exhausting. But if we’re honest, most of us are letting fear and doubt keep us stuck.

“I can’t speak up.”
“I don’t want to be seen.”
“I’m not ready.”
“I’m not good enough.”

Sound familiar?

You’re not alone. In fact, that quiet war in your head? The constant second-guessing and holding back? It’s more common than you think—especially for women of faith who are meant for more but feel like they’re not measuring up.

Meet Rachel. Married in her twenties, she’s always had big dreams but felt like she was constantly falling short. She knew God had called her to leadership, but insecurity kept whispering that she wasn’t smart enough, prepared enough, or spiritual enough to step forward.

But God doesn’t call the equipped. He equips the called. (Hebrews 13:21)

equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen Hebrews 13:21

When Rachel finally took one step forward—just one—she discovered something beautiful: Confidence isn’t about being loud or perfect. It’s about trusting God, moving forward, and choosing boldness even when you feel scared.

If you feel like you’re playing small in your life, marriage, work, or faith, this one’s for you. Here are 10 super simple ways to stop hiding and start living boldly like the woman God designed you to be.

10 super simple ways to Gain Quick Confidence

1. Name the Vision God Gave You

If you never name what you want, how will you know if you’re walking toward it? Confidence starts by getting clear on your God-given goals.

Write the vision and make it plain (Habakkuk 2:2). That’s not just about ministry—it’s about your whole life.

Need help figuring it out? Download my Vision Clarity Worksheet to uncover what God might be prompting you to pursue.

Pro Tip: Write your top 3 goals on sticky notes and put them on your mirror. Seeing them daily will renew your mind and boost your boldness.

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2. Surround Yourself with Confident Christian Women

Boldness is contagious. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Find mentors, join Bible study groups, or follow women who are walking in their calling. As Anne Wilson says, *”God made you to stand out, not blend in.”

Need help connecting? Our Prayer Bundle includes a guide to spiritual mentorship and powerful prayers for divine connections.

Pro Tip: DM someone you admire and ask for a 15-minute coffee chat. Boldness starts with one message.

3. Stop Playing Small and Speak Life Over Yourself

Confidence isn’t a personality trait; it’s a mindset.

and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ 2 Corinthians 10:5

The tongue has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21). What are you saying about yourself?

Here’s a challenge: For the next 7 days, speak one biblical affirmation over yourself each morning.

Here are some to get you started:

I am chosen (1 Peter 2:9)
I am courageous (Joshua 1:9)
I have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16)
I will take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5)

Our Renewing the Mind Bible Study is full of affirmations and journaling prompts to help you rewire your inner voice.

4. Stop Waiting to Feel Ready

Confidence doesn’t come before action. It comes after obedience.

Rachel didn’t feel ready. But she said yes anyway—to leading a devotional, to applying for a promotion, to sharing her testimony. And with each small step, she grew bolder.

Amy Groeschel says, *”God isn’t looking for perfection. He’s looking for willingness.”

What have you been putting off until you “feel ready”? Take the step today.

Pro Tip: Write down the next bold step God is asking you to take. Then, just do it.

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5. Clean Up Your Mental Diet

What you feed your mind will either fuel your faith or feed your fear.

Unfollow accounts that make you feel less-than. Limit your scroll time. Replace it with Scripture, worship music, or devotionals.

Looking for a guide to help? Our Renew Your Mind bundle is packed with daily devotionals, prompts, and reminders to refocus your thoughts on God.

6. Dress the Part (Literally)

Confidence is also visual.No, it’s not about impressing others—it’s about how you show up. When you dress with intention, it shifts your mindset. Do your hair. Put on the jeans that fit. Wear the lipstick.

This isn’t vanity. It’s stewardship.

Pro Tip: Choose an outfit the night before that makes you feel strong and capable. Show up like the woman God already sees.

7. Learn to Make Decisions with Peace

Indecision is a confidence killer.

James 1:8 calls a double-minded person “unstable in all they do.”

One of the best ways to grow in confidence is to learn to hear God’s voice and trust it. Not sure if it’s Him or just your thoughts?

Read this next: Is This God’s Voice or Just Me?

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8. Stop Playing Small and Journal Your Wins

You are doing more than you think.

Confidence grows when you can look back and see how far you’ve come. Keep a journal of your wins, answered prayers, and bold moments.

You’ll start to see a pattern: God has been moving. And you have been growing.

Download my free Prayer & Praise Journal Template to start tracking today.

9. Don’t Compare. Run Your Race.

Comparison is the thief of both joy and confidence.

You weren’t made to look like her, lead like her, or rise like her.

You were made to be you.

Stay in your lane. Run your race. Fix your eyes on Jesus (Hebrews 12:2). And when you need a boost, reread your journal. You’re further than you think.

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10. Laugh More. Worry Less.

Boldness doesn’t mean being serious all the time. In fact, the most confident women are often the most joyful.

Take a deep breath. Trust the process. And smile.

Joy is a weapon.

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