Family Faith is Vital to Mental Health-Love Mindset Focus

I Don’t Need My Family’s Input because the Internet Has ALL THE ANSWERS! Oh, and my family doesn’t know anything at all. Why would I ask them anything since they are not experts, and I have access to experts.

Love mindset focus-Family trust is vital to your mental health. In this article we are going to take a hard look at this mindset and how it affects your mental health. This has become prevalent amongst 30 somethings for the most part, (as well as many others taken with the Internet), and this is the one age group that is most susceptible to mental health issues which in turn contributes to obesity, alcoholism, illegal drug use, and sleep deprivation just to name a few.

Define Expert. Family Trust is Vital to Mental Health

First let’s talk about the term expert. Merriam Webster defines expert as: one with the special skill or knowledge representing mastery of a particular subject. Please tell me how a scientist is an expert on you and your situation? They do not know you. How can they possibly be an expert on you? Chalk one up for the family here. Your family knows you. Wouldn’t that make them an expert on you? So, why don’t you trust them?

When you say things like “my family doesn’t know what they are talking about”, aren’t you yourself saying that you are an expert on them…that you know them…so you know what they do and do not know?

Sounds like an oxymoron to me.

Mindset Focus – Who Cares About You the Most? A Random Scientist, or your family?

So if your first response is, “well of course my family cares for me and not a random scientist,” then why wouldn’t your family have your best interest at heart and want you to be safe, happy, and healthy? So tell me again why you don’t trust them?

Oh, that’s right because they are not educated on the topic. Now lets look at the term educated.

Educated — What Does This Term Mean?

Once again, you say that your family isn’t educated on the topic….let’s keep moving forward with this. Merriam Webster states that the term “educated” means: having an education beyond the average. So you don’t think your family is educated about you beyond the average? At this point you and I are both thoroughly confused.

Let’s move onto mental health and why family trust is so important to your mental health.

Family Trust is Vital to Mental Health

According to John Sharry, “Our mental health and personal well being are tied up in the quality of our personal relationships.

The more closely we are connected to the people we love, the happier we feel and the more personal satisfaction we have in our lives. These important relationships not only include family and personal friends but also the wider groups and communities we belong to.”

John is a Social Worker and Child and Family Psychotherapist with almost 30 years experience working with individuals, families and organisations. He is an author of thirteen books on parenting and positive psychology, and is the co-developer of the Parents Plus Programmes. 

Mindset Shift for Mental Health

Interesting, I don’t see anything here from this expert about the importance of only listening to Einstein when it comes to advice, but what this does tell me is that if you are ONLY listening to these scientist, then you are not getting the complete picture for your situation.

What does all this mean? This means that if you stop looking at your family as people who are putting their nose where it doesn’t belong and start looking at them as people who love and care for you and who might just know more than the experts then you can be mentally healthy, happy, and well-adjusted. These people are your community. They contribute to your happiness just as much as your friends, co-workers, and others you happen across.

If you say you can, you can. Positive Mental Health

Don’t start making excuses like…”my family drives me nuts” because I always did that, and then all at once I started adding to that phrase, “my family drives me nuts, but I am so thankful for their love and support.”

This shift in mindset will make all the difference to how you view your family and your mental health will improve greatly. Yes family can be challenging at times. I fully admit that as I’ve had to deal with crazy stuff as well, but in the end, they are the ones who help you feel the sense of belonging that can help you overcome so many hurdles.

In a previous post...https://myicanstory.com/trust-in-our-family-members-apprehension-and-lack-of-faith/ I talked about having faith in our family. As you can see having a love mindset focus-family faith is vital to mental health.

What Good Can Come From Ignoring Your Family?

Granted many people would dearly love to choose a different family. They might wish they had loved ones who agreed with them more, or thought they could do more, or were richer, or more helpful. Whatever the case, we’re never going to have perfection when it comes to family. It just won’t happen, so stop worrying about what you don’t have and start blessing and being thankful for the family that you do have.

If you are striving for an educated, perfect, expert of a family, then guess what? You already have one. They are educated experts on you. Embrace their love. Take the advice you want and leave the rest, but continue to love and support your family…if not for them, then for your own mental health.

God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in sun-scorched land. Psalm 68:6

But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God.  1 Timothy 5:4

28 Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless, 32 Although they know God's righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them. Romans 2:28-32