Now You Can Have Positive Self Confidence in 5 Simple Steps
The Positive Vibers Friendly Guide to Self Confidence. Now you can have positive self confidence in 5 simple steps.
They know more than I do.
Do you want to know how I know? Because they ACT like they do. Have you ever gone into a situation where you thought you knew what you were talking about, but because the other person was so strong in their conviction you started to doubt yourself?
That happened to me. And it all sprang from the other person’s conviction in how they were telling me how to do it. I KNEW it wouldn’t work. I knew it in my heart, but I succumbed to what they said. For some reason, I can’t even fathom, I began agreeing with them.
Later, I was just shaking my head and kicking myself for listening to them.
Self Confidence – Falling Into the Trap
I fell into their trap. I’m not going into any details here because it involves another person that I do not wish to hurt. I will just say that strong actions beget responses wished for by the person acting strong. Basically, the pushy person who is loud and forceful a lot of times will get their way or have you ever heard the old adage…”the squeaky wheel gets the oil?”
If you don’t believe me, just watch what happens when loud mouths get together to try to change a law, and usually a law that was just fine the way it was, but the loud mouths have a way of insinuating their thoughts into your brain even thought you know its wrong.
Or get 3 or more teenagers together with a bad idea, and things will get ugly. We must learn how to have positive self confidence and act like it. This is call courage or no fear.
Simple Step #1 Is It True?
Ask yourself this question. Is it true? When you’re with a group or another person who is trying to tell you something, that you’re not quite sure of, take a moment to pause and ask yourself Is this true? Are you sure it is true? Would you testify in a court of law that the thing this person is trying to convince you of is 100% true?
Like we mentioned above, do not fall into the trap of the other person’s personality and their convictions. If they are trying to “convince” you of something, that’s the time to back way off and really think about what they are telling you.
Simple Step 2 Positive Vibers Trust Yourself!
Of all the steps in this whole process I believe this one to be the absolute toughest for those of us who lack self confidence. T-R-U-S-T YOURSELF!! Seriously!! I mean it. If you mark yourself down then society will mark you down. Don’t put yourself on the sale rack and don’t give yourself away to charity.
You are an important part of society and this great human race. Life has been enhanced and enjoyed by your loved ones to have you in it. This is your chance to enhance their life by stepping up to the plate with your own I can story.
You must say, I can, and you must trust yourself and your own thinking. Be your own person.
Step 3 Is it Worth Your Effort
This is where your self confidence needs to kick in. If you’re evaluating a situation that may or may not be important to you, here is when you decide whether you will step in and make waves in the conversation or not.
If the conversation is about something you really don’t care about such as the price of tea in China, then let it go and be ok with that.
BUT, if this conversation is about something near and dear to your heart, then do not let them go on and on about something they know nothing about. And by all means do not let them get away with offending you!
I have a deep and intense faith and love for Jesus Christ my savior and in the past I have let people put Him down because of my fear of offending them not realizing how badly they were offending me! That is not fair to Jesus and it is not right and so if it is worth your effort, then take time to voice your objections and do it with self confidence and love.
Step 4 Suffering from Lack of Self Confidence, then do this
Ask yourself this question, and this is the really important one…IS IT KIND? Don’t mistake being nice for kindness because this is sometimes very hard to discern. I talk a LOT about this in a recent blog post entitled What’s the difference-Kind versus Nice.
There is a huge difference between true kindness and just being nice. Sometimes we see things and immediately jump to “hey, they’re being mean”, but upon closer inspection you see it was the kindest thing you ever could have done. Read my article and you will completely understand, but back to step 4.
Do the KIND thing. Show the other person/people that you know what you are talking about by showing how your response is the kindest way possible. This will give you the most confidence of all. When you know you are doing the kind thing, then you know you are doing the right thing.
Simple Step 5 – Do Not Question yourself
I didn’t say this would be easy. I said it would be simple. One of the hardest things we do is question our actions following a run-in with someone else, and quite frankly I am super guilty of this. If you don’t believe me, check out this blog post From Worry to Self Confidence – Triumph! My Turning point.
We’ve all been where you are as we sit there and question our actions and whether we looked stupid or not, or whether we said or did the right thing or not. Trust me you are not alone in this.
Notice I did not say don’t reassess because reassessing can be a good thing but do not question your actions and your words. They are done and what is done is done and you responded in a many that was true to you and you did the best you could with the situation. Believe in yourself and go back to step 2 if you have to.
Hey Positive Vibers, What Do you Say? — A Bonus Step!
Are you ready to stand at attention with your back straight, look someone in the eye and tell them exactly that you know what you are talking about? Your demeanor is vital to pulling this off.
Hold your head up and give the aura of self confidence and you will immediately FEEL more self confident. Try it right now. Sit up straight, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I KNOW what I’m talking about.” Repeat this over and over again, and if you have to repeat it several times each and every morning until you believe it and know it in your heart.
God Don’t Make Junk
I heard this once and while I believe it to be true I also believe that we can definitely turn ourselves into junk if we’re not careful. You don’t want to do that. Guard your thinking. Change your thinking and change your life an the first step is to sign up for this weblog and get updates because we talk about this a lot, and write to me your thoughts.
The first step is changing all of this is to take action. What action will you take right in this second to change your life? I can tell you it is to sign up for this weblog and read and re-read this blog until you get it all into your head and your heart.
You are valued. You are loved. Act like it.
So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. Hebrews 10:35
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
In Him and through faith in Him we may approach God with Freedom and Confidence. Ephesians 3:12
The fruit of that righteousness will be peace; its effect will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
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