Sometimes Getting Our of Your Comfort Zone will Beautify Your Life in Ways You Can’t Imagine
Loneliness 5 Little-known Ways to Overcome loneliness. I used to get so lonely I would cry. I didn’t think anyone liked me, and I thought that everyone else had tons of friends!
Boy was I so totally wrong!
People are actually scared to come out of their homes these days except for going to the grocery store or something along those lines. They are scared of everything from germs to other people in so many ways. Is this you? Then this is contributing to your loneliness.
I’ve been where you are and I didn’t think I had very many friends at all. In fact, if it wasn’t for my work I wouldn’t know anyone. I had moved away from my family home to a big city and really did not know anyone much. The first thing I did was rented a one bedroom apartment. It was so small that it barely had a living room. Luckily the apartment complex did have some events from time to time.
These Events Helped to Save Me
Eventually I went to one of the meet and greets in the recreation room because I didn’t have much food in the apartment and I was lazy and didn’t want to cook so it just happened they were having a happy hour just across the parking lot from me. This was incentive enough to get me over there.
I didn’t really meet a whole lot of people on this outing, but it was a start and a way to just get out of my tiny apartment out into the world. It was way less boring than sitting around my apartment all evening playing on my phone and scrolling through Netflix.
Have you ever heard of the song “People Who Need People are the Luckiest People in the World?”sung by the incomparable Barbara Streisand? Yeah, I get it. It is a very old song, but very, very popular and way still true today. When you let go of your fear and pride and get outside of yourself, your loneliness will begin to fade away. Read this little article about this song because it is truly inspirational. People Who Need People written by Allen Randolph.
Where Does Loneliness Come From
Loneliness stems from the lack of being around others in this world. God never meant for any of us to be alone. Genesis 2:18 says The Lord God Says, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
If you find yourself alone more than with people, your loneliness will increase and you will eventually turn to depression and the feeling of loss. Where’s your I Can story? How can you change this? Courage and baby steps changes every thing!
Way #1 to Overcome Loneliness
Call someone. Anyone. You have a cell phone, scroll through your contacts. Let me tell you a little story. I decided I would call some people one day and that was one of the most uplifting days I’ve ever had.
My very first call was to a lady that I had not seen in a couple of years. We used to do some charitable work together, but had very differing opinions about a few things. That was ok, but we eventually went our separate ways. She’s still working with that charity, and I have moved on.
Anyway, the coolest thing came out of that conversation. She was very surprised to call, but she was so very excited to know that I would take time to call her. Her pleasure was evident in her voice when she answered and in the things she said, and you know what? I actually got a fabulous business lead out of the call…one who is still a client today! Bonus!
Here Comes the Second Way…
Scroll through your favorite social media site and comment positively on every single post that you enjoy! SKIP THE NEGATIVE and don’t waste your time! You are trying to accomplish something here. The reason for this particular way is that by commenting sincerely on other people’s posts, you bring warm feelings of happiness and pretty soon you are no longer feeling lonely.
While you are doing all of this, respond to EVERYONE who makes a comment on any of your posts. You will find you have way more friends than you ever thought possible. People are drawn to positive people, so if you comment on posts that spark something positive in you, then others will be drawn to you and your positivity!
This approach is so way cool you can’t even imagine it! I’ve seen so many wonderful warm responses to many of my posts and comments that I had no clue. I even ended up making plans with several of the people who commented and suddenly, no loneliness!
A Third Way to Overcome Loneliness is ….
Make a LIST of stuff you’ve been meaning to do but haven’t gotten around to it. This is way cool, People! Seriously! Walk around your house or apartment and go through closets and drawers. Have a tablet and a pen with you. Start writing down things such as clean out sock drawer and throw away anything that needs it. Or, go through closet and toss any shirts that no longer bring me joy.
Other things might be to find a unique picture to hang in my hallway, or how about embroider a new table runner! How about starting a herb garden or get an exercise book. You pass by the mirror and realize you need to lose weight so it is time to join a workout club. Genesis is amazing! What other actions might you take such as join a charitable club so you can meet people? What ideas did you come up with? I would love for you to put them in the comments below so that our other readers might be able to also get their lists enhanced.
Our Fourth Way is….
Get out of the house and do something that you sort of fear. For instance, walk into a bar and grill…Applebees is pretty cool if you have one near you, and sit at the bar. Yes. All by yourself. People do it all the time. Just sit there and order some food or something and talk to the bartender or the other person sitting next to you who is there alone or with one other person.
“But I wouldn’t know what to say…” Seriously? Ask them where the best hiking trails are in the area. Or, maybe they have see a super great movie or how about if you ask them if they are from the area or moved in from another town. You could also ask them what line of work their in. There are all sorts of ideas on this one.
Another place you might go is to a park or find a hiking trail in the area and get some exercise. My hands down best way to overcome loneliness is to find nature. Luckily, we have a nature sanctuary a few minutes from home and it is so fabulous. We hike about an hour and run into deer, squirrels, and rabbits. We also have a walk along the River that is so gorgeous. There are park benches to sit on and look out on the water and watch the Missouri River roll on by. Sometimes I luck out and see a boat or two.
The Fifth Way to Overcome Loneliness is to take
Massive action. You simply must do something. Get out of your comfort zone and make the call, go see a friend, talk to someone at the coffee shop or in the grocery line or where ever you happen to be. Wallowing in loneliness will only bring more loneliness. How about a little retail therapy? How do you feel about some new clothes?
Any action will help to pick you up, but taking massive action will alleviate loneliness once and for all. The lack of energy comes from loneliness which leads to depression. Don’t go there, get busy with one of these things. You are worth it, and we value you as a child of God.
Finally the Best Way to Overcome Loneliness is
Change your attitude! It’s all about I CAN, remember the title of this blog site? My I Can Story! What’s your I can story? They have a saying in Alcoholics Anonymous and when someone is wallowing in self pity while maybe getting ready to go off the edge and drink again. They call it stinking thinking. This is a trigger for many in AA as it is truly another way to speak truth to bullshit. The person could be saying “yeah but I lost my dog, my car broke down, and I can’t find a job so I’m not worthy and I just as well drink.”
This is where the sponsor or other members jump in and call it stinking thinking. Anytime you start to tell yourself that you are not worthy, you should jump in and call it what it is…bullshit! It’s stinking thinking plain and simple. You are valued and you are worth it. It is time to get your I Can story into place right now.
What can you do to take massive action today? Which one of these ways are you going to put into place right now to overcome your loneliness? Helping others is a great place to start write your thoughts and comments below and you will inspire others with these thoughts. Good luck! Cheering for you!
I dearly love this particular post: Bold-Speak Truth to Bullshit! and this one will put you over-the-top: Fortify Your Life With a Cosmic Shift in Your Attitude!
Fabulous Verses!
I will ask the Father, and he will give you another helper who will be with you forever. John 14:16
My eyes are always on the Lord, for he rescues me from the traps of my enemies. Turn to me and have mercy, for I am alone and in deep distress. Psalms 25:15-16
The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears, and delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is near the brokenhearted; He saves those crushed in spirit. Psalms 34:17-18
Don’t be afraid, because I’m with you; don’t be anxious, because I am your God. I keep on strengthening you; I’m truly helping you. I’m surely upholding you with my victorious right hand. Isaiah 41:10
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